my 3 1/2 yr old is having tantrums?

My 3 1/2 yr old is having tantrums?
my 3 yr old who will be turning 4 in january has been acting so bad lately. i dont know what to do. he doesnt listen to me when i call his name i have to practically yell at him to get his attention he whines about everything or if he wants something even if its just a cup of milk. i dont know if it has anything to do with his baby brother getting all the attention but i do try to give him attention too is any1 out there going through the same thing?!?

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They call it the terrible twos, but yes these behaviors frequently are displayed by 3 and 4-year-olds too. Children this age whine, ignore, and throw tantrums for a variety of reasons. Here are a few: content from pregnancy question and answersRenting&RealEstate

1) they are over tired
2) they do not want to stop the activity they are doing
3) they want attention whether it is negative or positive attention they get
4) they have not been taught or disciplined on how to act or react to a parental request

At this age most children still are taking a nap during the day. If all naps have already been dropped or your child is simply not a napper, consider an earlier bedtime. A 3-4-year-old still needs about 12 hours of sleep a night. Everyone gets grumpy or groggy when they are tired or lack sleep.

Sometimes youngsters just do not want to put down a fun activity or stop what they are doing. Give him a 1 minute warning when you know he will need to put away toys or stop what he is doing. Try having him stop and look you in the eye when you give him the warning. Then have him repeat your request. For example, "Yes, I will pick up the toys when you tell me it is time." He gets fair warning, and you know he heard your request. Knowledge of business and finance, please go to pregnancy

If you have a new little one at home then mom's attention does need to be shared. It is simply life, but it is an adjustment for an only child. Some kids will purposely act out or disobey just to get a parent's attention even if they get a stern look or raised voice. They just want to remind you that they are there too. Try picking a time of day when just you and your 3-year-old can have time alone preferably when the younger one is sleeping. Forget all distractions for the half hour or whatever you can afford time wise and just play, read, talk, sing, whatever with your child.

Discipline is not just offering a consequence, it is also teaching what behaviors you expect from your child. For example, teach him how to say "Excuse me mom,", tap on your leg, and then wait quietly until you can stop and listen to him. Practice it with him. It will be a game for him. When you give him positive praise and then full attention when you are ready, he will like it. When you ignore him or say, "You need to use your words and not whine, so I can hear you," again you are teaching him what you expect and not caving into whining.
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Be consistent and it will get better. Good luck.

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I have three girls 14, 8, 5, and a 5 month old boy.. when my daughters would throw tantrums I would simply pick them up or hold their hands and walk them to their rooms and tell them when they stopped crying and screaming they can come out.. My 5 yr old to this day when she gets mad and she does about every little thing it seems she yells and runs straight to her room a few min later she comes out just fine and happy as ever.. I always told them if you feel you need to cry and scream do it in your room b/c Im not going to listen to it.... And if we were in a store and they start i ignore them and i just keep walking trust me they won't let u get out of their sight and just in case their hardheaded all you have to do is go out of their sight but not your sight on them so strangers don't get some crazy ideas. trust me it only happens once or twice and they will not act like that in a store again.. You have to show them that they don't have control of you just control of their own actions. and acting bad does not get them anywhere...
You don't answer him when he whines you MAKE him speak to you properly and just tell him I don't understand whining, speak to me properly! You PUNISH him when you call him and he ignores you! He can sit in time out til he learns to respond when you call him!! Let HIM HELP you take care of the baby, then he won't feel jealous or left out!
my son just turned 4 this month.. and i still have the same issues with him.. however i do agree with the person above me... dont let him get away with ignoring you. let him help with the baby... pretty much he is looking for attention.

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