Parents, do you find anything offensive in this?

Parents, do you find anything offensive in this?
So it's me again. 16year old girl liking this 17 year old boy. there has been so much drama..

today, throught text, he told me that i should act mature and change the way i walk, talk, move,etc.. if i wanted to be with him. since i like him so much, then i said ''ok. i will''..

then after that i asked him ''___, why are you mature? what's the reason behind that?"

after that, he replied with '' you have spoiled my night. goodnight."


WHAT DID I DO WRONG??? Is asking someone why they're mature and the reason behind it offensive??? :S

this boy means so much to me. for the past 3 weeks, i have sacrificed a lot. i have lied to my OWN MOTHER just so i could see him. :(( i have been in TROUBLE because of how much i like him :( Knowledge of business and finance, please go to pregnancy

What do I do? ive apologized to him :( but he didnt text back. :((

thanksssss parents!! xoxo
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No, I don't find anything about that offensive, but I'm a bit confused as to why you'd ask someone why they're mature?? I can see askin someone why they're so IMmature, but I can't really understand asking why they're mature. Sorry, I'm rambling now! Point being, no I don't find it offensive.

That being said, sounds like you need a reality check. Plain and simple, he doesn't care about you. You're basically like a puppet on a string to him at this point, and that's not gonna change. He'll use you to get what he can out of you, then he'll drop you like a brick. You should NEVER have to change who you are, to make someone love you. If they don't like you for WHO you are, without making you change, then they're NOT worth your time at all. Let him go, and forget about him. Find someone that cares about you for YOU, not for what they want you to be.
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He's NOT worth getting into trouble over, lying to your mother over, or changing yourself completely over. NO guy is worth all that, especially when you're only 16 years old! You have your WHOLE life ahead of you, dear, and you need to relax and enjoy it, guy or no guy. You're still young, there's plenty of time to worry about things like this :) I promise you'll be much happier if you let this guy go now, before this situation gets any worse. You're still young, (enjoy that while you have it!!), there's no reason to stress yourself this much out over a guy. There's a lot more to life then worrying about guys like him.

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Been married to my husband for almost 7 years now, and haven't had to change for him once, he's never asked me to, and never would :)
He doesn't sound good for you, he sounds controlling and frankly if he really cares about you then he wouldn't ask you to change. Also if you have to lie and get in trouble to see him then he isn't worth it. Plus he sounds immature from the way he responded to your question. I would just forget about him and find someone better.
Don't change for anyone. And any boy who asks you to change is not a good boy for you. You didn't do anything wrong. To me it just sounds like he doesn't want to have a relationship with you. I think that it's time for you to move on. content from pregnancy question and answersRenting&RealEstate

Edit: He doesn't want to date you. Why are you still interested in this guy?
you like someone who wants you to change everything about yourself for him, won't answer a question, and has "so much drama"?

walk away. not just from him, but from dating generally -- until you are secure enough in who you are that you aren't going to put up with that kind of garbage from anybody.
This dude obviously can't accept who you are and you just completly bowed down to him. You need to grow a backbone. STOP apologizing, STOP being a doormat, and move on. If ANY guy tried to change me like that I would have told him to f*ck off.
You did same he did then why he suffered ? You are 16 and he's 17 then no reason for saying that just because you act differently !
You did what u think is right then do not suffer yourself for nothing !
I am agree with friends DO NOT CHANGE YOURESELF FOR ANYBODY ! copyright pregnancy question and answers,Other-Business&Finance
just change yourself when yo feel you are doing wrong.
Sweetie, you should never, EVER change yourself for a guy. If he doesn't like you for who you are, he's trash. Kick him to the curb and rid yourself of him. He sounds like he's got his head shoved so far up his ***, so count yourself lucky.

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