How do you do raise your children with no help?

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I have a 1 year old daughter and my husband and I take care of her with no help at all. We don't have any family/friends around to help us. We are thinking of having another baby soon, but I am so scared how I am going to do it? Do any of you have 2 kids or more and do it all on your own? How do you make it to doctor apts etc, if your husband can't take off work? It seems so rare to find people today that do it all on their own with no help.

My son just turned 3 and I have a 17 month old son. If I need to bring them to the doctor or something I just put them in the double stroller and make them stay in there till we're done. If they cry, they cry people understand. Dont worry it will get easier as they grow older. content from pregnancy question and answersRenting&RealEstate
Just bring lots of snacks and toys wherever you go.

we walk... or take the bus

you aren't alone, you have each other... and you will find a way to make things work out for you...

we have four kids and one babysitter (recommended by friends ... you could try that route to find someone to help you) who has a day job and is only rarely free even at other times. she's also pricey. my husband also travels a fair amount for work. in the last year my parents have moved closer to us but for the ten years before that we did not live in the same state as any family.

i take the kids with me when i need to go somewhere. simple as that.

now that they're older i have made friends with many of their friends' parents, and i take every possible opportunity to do whatever favors i can for them, so that if i'm truly stuck and absolutely need somebody to watch my kids (e.g. the time i was home alone and had to take one child to the ER but the others needed to be picked up from school) i don't feel too bad about calling on them to ask for help.

I agree with Dread Head...you aren't alone when you have your husband. If you were a single parent it might be a legitimate concern...but there are a lot of people who manage just fine without an extended network of family and friends. When I was growing up there were 4 of us kids and we moved around alot, so there wasn't a network there, either...but my mother managed just fine. You just have to take control of the situation by staying organized and keeping a schedule and you'll be just fine.

Find a good babysitter.

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So that when you want to go to a doctors appointment say, then you could call her ( in advance ) and ask her to look after them for a couple of hours.
You'll work things out.

Most people I know are single parents, and they manage one way or another. If you aren't ready for another baby yet, just tell him how you feel. Maybe its a sign that it isn't the right time.

Good luck.

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We walk and take public transport. And taxi if needed - very rarely. still works out cheaper than buying a car. In some states the health insurance will cover transportation to doctors appointments (if you qualify by income for this insurance).

To keep the kiddos busy without making a mess in the house, go outside. Kids play, mom gets fresh air and there is no mess to come back and clean up. And kids learn a great deal while outside. In all kinds of big and small ways, it will help them and you in the long run.

if you can't afford a sitter and your husband does not have the benefit of sick and personal time you are NOT ready for another one. your kids are your responsibility, no one else's. If you CANT afford help, and have no friends or family, you CANT afford more children.

<widowed mother, manages just fine