Is there any possible way to get my grandmother to allow me

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Over the years I have noticed that I have been invited to sleepovers and have always wanted to go but was never allowed to go. Either because:
A) My Grandmother didn't know the students or their parents (but she was never willing to call them to try to get some "pre info" on the parents and/or child)
B) She knows the student (and has even become "friends" with the student) but doesn't know the parent.
C) She thinks that something bad will happen

An example of "C" is:
Once A friend of mines invited me over to her sleepover because my grandmother knew her mom/dad and she lived around our neighborhood. My grandmother didn't allow me to go because she thought/feared that something bad was going to happen to me (such as her brothers would rape me etc.). But the thing was that I/We had known her long enough to know that the only brother she has was only a year old, but that still wasn't enough to allow me to go. The sleepover would have been only herself, me and two other girls which isn't a lot. She still thought something bad was going to happen (her dad would have been at work that night so it was going to be mainly a girls party) Around that time I was only 10 years old. pregnancy question and answersNewborn&Baby

To this day I still have never been to a sleepover with other girls. (to by their standards at my age level and grade technically im an outcast)

Now I am in the 7th grade and I have a cell phone but is there anyway that I can possibly get my grandmother to allow me to go to a sleepover. She can call/text me at anytime she pleases.

BTW: The whole "do more chores" thing doesnt work because she doesnt let me do chores. Such as washing the cloths. IDK how to use a washer or dryer because I have never been thought. The only "chores" I have is geting my schoolwork finished and passing as well as keeping my room clean. But those dont even work. In my POV shes being over-protective because of how she lived and what she has heard.

oh wow that is over protectice.. uhm.. try to tell her you will call her or txt her evry hour to let her know your ok. she has to let you go your growing up and she needs to let the fact that your growing up your not a baby anymore you can take care of your sefl. she needs to trust you. i hope she lets you go... that's not cool even for a grandmother. well good luck

you can't 'make her' do anything, she is, i assume, yur legal guardian (if not she legally has no say in it), and so is responsible for you, and can take any precautionary measures she wants, no matter how 'unfair' they may seem. you can wait the five years till your 18.

i would say, make her trust you, but that doesn't seem to be the problem in this situation.




also, can i just add, i lol'd at 'technically im an outcast'. i didn't know there was a technical definition of social regection.

Oh boy! I can see both sides. I have to know the family before my 5th grader can stay over somewhere else. I usually compromise by letting her have a sleep over at home. Maybe something bad happened to her at a sleep over?

It is tough, I make the effort to get to know the people. Anyway, I think your Gram had a bad experience and wants to protect you.

Ask her to have a sleep over at home

wow thats crazy and messed up.... i had my first sleepover when i was 3. i hav sleepovers like every sat and sometimes fri. too... NEVER has anything bad happened... ask her if u can just envite 1 friend and that u wont b dissapointed if they dont come, u just want to ask. hopefully shell let u 4 heavens sake ur 7th grader!!! show her these posts!

Your grandmother is being a bit over-protective.

Why don't you ask your friend's mother to call your grandmother?

Usually things don't go wrong at sleepovers, but once I slept over my friends house, I tripped over her dog (She has a great dane), and I smashed my face onto this glass table corner. I wound up fracturing my cheekbone and getting four stitches in my face.

So do your friends have dogs? Are you a klutz like me? If you are, I see why your grandmother is afraid.