If you have a daughter that want listen to you when you talk

If you have a daughter that want listen to you when you talk to her about a period.?
I have a daughter that is going on 12 years old. She has all the lumps and bumps that a woman has. When I say every thing I mean every thing. I have discussed the period that may be approaching more sooner then later. She just tells me that she is not going to go through that so why should we be talking about it. She really do not grasp the ideal that she is getting older and she will have new changes that will occur to her body. I bring books home from the DR. office and library and even little articles from the internet for her to read with me or alone. She is really not interested in anything that has to do with her growing up. When I put my foot down and make her listen she starts crying and run to her dad and here we go again with she is not going to go through that so why should she have to talk about it. I'm so stuck on what to do. Should I just let nature take its course and not say anything else about it ? What should I do?

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My daughter was the same way. She didn't want to hear about it and every time I tried to bring it up she would walk away.

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What I did was get a book for her called "The Care & Keeping of You: The Body Book for Girls".
http://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-A…

She took the book, read it over & over again. I told her to feel free to ask me any questions at all. She did ask a few mostly about tampons. The book talks about tampons and I think has a picture too. Nothing to awful but it did surprised me at first.

Just give your daughter the book and if she reads it then she reads it. If she doesn't then let it go.

You are doing more than most moms have done. I had friends whose moms never mentioned a period and they thought they were dying!

My daughter was the same about shaving her legs too. She is 14 & just started. She needed to shave though last year & the year before. But she put up a fuss about that. We used an electric razor.

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some schools teach kids about that. my mom did not had 2 talk 2 me about it i already new at 11 knew. she will want 2 know when one of her friends starts
What is it you're trying to tell her? You've said a lot already: her body is changing, there books and other information available to her, you're ready and willing to talk. Now is the time to wait, let her adjust and digest all this information.

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Another aspect may be that at that age, even natural changes, may be viewed as a bad thing. Suddenly, she doesn't look like other girls in the locker room, maybe the boys start teasing her, maybe her clothes no longer fit just-so, etc.

You want to be there for her -- that's great. But, you can't live her life for her and such talks are awkward enough w/o bringing "cheer leading" into them. Just keep a supply of pads in the house and just keep letting her know she's still your little girl and you'll be there if she wants to talk.
let her enjoy her last few years of childhood, dont constantly bug her with books and talks about growing up and periods, if shes not interested then shes not interested, your probably making her feel embarrassed and scared about it. just let her know what a period is, which she already seems to know, so she wont think shes bleeding to death, and then let it go until it actually happens. keep her informed but dont shove unwanted information down her throat, shes only 11, she doesnt need to talk about growing up and having a period if she doesnt want to. it will come when it comes, until then just let it go.
it may be good to give it some time but she will be very unprepared once it comes. What if it happens at school then she will be more embarrassed to tell a teacher then she would to you so i think you should really talk to her about it because if you don't then she wont know anything of what to do when it comes and eventually she will have to confront you about it anyways so just tell her. I mean what is she worried about its going to last about 40 years of her life she should really learn about it before its to late.
Yeah I'd probably just give it some time, if it doesn't happen to her first, one of her friends will be going through it and she'll learn it from them and then I'm sure will come to you for all the other questions that she has. She could still have a few years to go, and at 12 she just seems really not ready yet. Nature will hit her and when it does, you'll know :) Good luck! and Kudos to you for being a concerned mom!

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