How can I help my son feel less embarrassed about wetting hi

I was driving with my 9 year old son. He had to go to the bathroom and I told him to hold it because we were 15 minutes from home. My son tried really hard, but he ended up wetting his pants. He told my not to tell anyone except his mother. When we got home, his 12 year old brother saw the wet spot on his pants. He probably called all his friends about it, because they were at my house making fun of my younger son for his accident. Now he's afraid of kids in the 7th grade, the grade my older son is in. How can I help him feel better about this?

First of all, you need to slap the arch outcha older kids foot! I would then spill water on his jeans and laugh at him.. teach him how it feels. I can't stand punk kids like that! copyright pregnancy question and answers,Other-Business&Finance

Tell your nine year old not to worry about it, even adults have accidents sometimes. It happens. This will all blow over soon.

I am not a parent, But If I were, My job would be comforting my children, In your case
I would probably tell my 12yo son, That it aint nice picking on your brother and humiliating him in any way seeing that there brothers. Then tell my younger son "Hey when dad was a kid, i wet my pants also. so did you big brother, its a part of growing up that little kids like you all go threw. :) Hope this helped. Just comfort him, stories dont need to be fully legit, Your there to make sure you son and happy and well.

Thanks.

Your 12 year old caused this problem and he's the one that needs to fix it. Thanks to his selfish uncaring action, his little brother is afraid of older kids that are now potential bullies. Way to go. Although this will probably blow over, the 12yo needs to learn something from it and be supportive of his little brother. Doing nothing is unacceptable. He needs to meet with you and the 9yo and take responsibility, show appropriate regret and find an acceptable resolution for everyone. This can help the 9yo feel less embarrassed and more secure knowing his older brother is on his side.

For example: He (12yo) needs to tell his friends it's no big deal. It's over now, forget it. Be nice to his little brother because he's actually pretty cool. There are worse things that can happen (and perhaps share an accident story...almost everyone's got one). Have his friends share an equally emabarrassing event. 'Has __ ever happened to you? How did you feel about it? etc.
There may be even more radical solutions but are more abusive than healing.

In the meantime, what can you tell your son? Above all - empathize!!
1. He couldn't help it and its happens to everyone at one time or other...including your 12yo and adults.
2. It was an accident, not a habit. Accidents can be pretty embarrassing but no one plans them.
3. Someday in the future (years!), he may even laugh about it.
4. You can take some of the responsibility as well. When a 9yo has to go, you've got about 5 minutes :)
5. Above all else, let him know he's ok and his brother should be more embarrassed for calling undue attention to it. Careers_Employment pregnancy.yifei8.netParenting
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