She wants to consider adoption?

She wants to consider adoption?
My girlfriend Danielle is pregnant with our second child. We have a year old daughter who we but love and adore. We are only 21 and she told me she is not as excited for this baby as our daughter. This pregnancy was unplanned and we both are afraid we won't be able to support 2 children. She told me she would like to have the baby but it might be in our best interest to consider adoption. I don't want to put our baby up for adoption at all. We have been arguing a lot recently she told me after being together 5 years and having a child together we should be married. So i proposed but she accepted but was mad because she thought i only proposed because she told me too and because she is pregnant. She told me she will not get married while pregnant. I love her more than anything and want to make things right should we consider adoption?
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Considering something does not mean you are going to do it. It never hurts to look at all of your options even if you know you want to keep the baby. Your girl friend sounds overwhelmed, just give her the support she needs right now
its something you two need to sit down and REALLY discuss. Ihad my sono when i was nineteen, and when he was 16 months old, we had a very much surprise pregnancy. we had only been marreid for 4 months, and i cried for weeks about this baby because of a lot of things. #1 we could barely support our son. #2 i had other worries, like i wasnt excited about this pregnancy as i was about our son, and i didnt understand how i was going to be able to love my 2nd baby as much as i did my first. we never for a second considered adoption. as the pregnancy went on i grew attaached to the baby growing inside of me. The way i look at adoption after the first baby is, you've already proved you can handle one. you also know ohow babies are made. if you werent ready for another one, you should have had a reliable source of birth control in place. My husband and i made sacrifices for our kids, and in our case it meant hi joining the military and moving 1500 miles away from the only place we'd ever known away from our families and friends, but we did what we had to to support our children. Now i have my handsome 2yo son along with a beautiful 4 mo daughter, and our 3rd is due in February 2011. i wouldn't have it any other way...
Yes, after 5 years and a child it is time to be a family. Children need stability from their parents. Babies are not for giving away to other people. content from pregnancy question and answersRenting&RealEstate

Keep the second baby. Get married and take care of your kids. You sound like a grown-up and I hope both of you can make it work.


ETA: young father, I strongly recommend that you see a parents' rights or family law attorney who will advise you about your rights as a parent. Your girlfriend might get caught up in adoption scam. If she gets involved with an adoption agency she could sign away her parental rights to your child and then the courts will start termination of rights against you, as well.

This procedure can be done against you *without* your signature.

I am hoping this will *not* happen to you and your family, and that you and your gf will stay together and make a home for all of your kids.

Here is a website you might try, also:


http://www.fathersrightsinc.com/
seriously people? many on this board are constantly bashing young fathers for not giving a damn; hence adoption is needed. now this young man is willing to do the right thing, and he's being met with condescending attitudes about how another man is better to raise his child!
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to the poster: you have ever right to fight for your baby. she can NOT place this child for adoption without your consent. you have asked to marry her, you have been a father to your other child. and you have the RIGHT to demand to raise this child.

whatever you do, please do not allow any adoption lawyer or 'counselor' to bait you into signing papers out of fear that you will go to jail for not paying child support. get yourself on the putative father's registry in the state you are in. many on this sight can give you the national link.

although "alicia's" approach was a tad bit abrasive, i have to agree with a lot of what she wrote. i will not bash you about birth control (because it's pointless) but, about 2/3 of all pregnancies in the US are unintended. so that means that many people (like you and your partner) are placed in the position to parent, before they thought they would. most do rise to the occasion; and become great parents. you both need to plan for your life with the new child, before you start thinking about giving your child away.

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