Is adopting a child really that bad?

Is adopting a child really that bad?
I want to adopt a child but after reading some posts on internet as to how the child suffers, i feel i shouldn't yet i want to get a child out of the orphanage and love it like it was my own. Is adopting really that bad... I'm really confused as to what's right anymore
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Here is an adult that was adopted as an infant and I can tell you that I have not suffered because of my adoption. I am one of those "strange" adoptees that are actually thankful that I was. What I mean by strange is that a lot of adoptees, here in particular wish that they had not been. If that was the case with me, I would never have chosen to adopt 2 children myself, because I would not want my children to suffer if I had. I could most likely have had my own children, so it was a CHOICE. We never made adoption a taboo- my mom and dad didn't either, that is most likely why my children and myself when I was growing up, never thought it negative to be adopted. I was adopted as and infant and so were my children. You will be adopting an older child, which is wonderful by the way, but you may have some issues that I never had. Some children that were raised in orphanages or foster homes may have issues that an infant did not have- but NO ADOPTION IS NOT BAD. You are given a life to a child that may not have one. Good for you.
as long as you will love it and treat it as your own there is nothing wrong with that trust me i am in dfs custody and it sucks you really should
my aunt could not have children so she adopted 2 boys not at the same time she got them both from birth.. there 5 and 10 now good boys an there rotten as can be. there another color besides there mom and dad but they know exactly who raised them and who they love which is my aunt
adopting a child is all about the parents its gonna be a little hard a first for u and the child but if you show ur child that u care for them and give them love they will adjust if a parent is suffering then so is the child cuz the child is gonna know when the parents are not happy with them being there ps babies are not the olny ones who needs to be adopted also watch adoption stories on discovery health it tends to come on in the mornings around like 6 give or take that should help alot

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watching adoption stories
Adopting a child is a great thing to do. Think about how much worse life is in fostercare/an orphanage.
who says adopting isnt good? some of my best freinds are adopted, from RUSSIA and they are perfectly happy! just love him/her and find the right kid! adopting is a good thing! go for it!
I am adopted and I know that my adoptive parents love me as their own child and they have two biological children younger than me. It isn't something any of us talk about and for long periods of time I can go believing that they are my real parents but then at other times I am dragged into another reality where I can picture them happier without me and i have some nagging questions about my real mum. I'm my family it is a sort of taboo to speak about adoption so often I just push it to the back of my my mind and continue living my life. Really I think adoption is a good thing as it is definitely a better alternative to abortion or orphanages and most of the time I feel like I have quite a good life and I am grateful that I was adopted but it is something that will always be with the child and you may have to accept that they may want to look for their birth parents.
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Overall I think you should go for it since children need homes and a loving family is best forthem as long as you can accept that it is a delicate subject and that it will always be with the child.

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adopted child age 16
Adoption itself is not bad.

Adoption that exploits young, poor, uneducated mothers is bad.

Adoption that ignores the needs of the child is bad.

Adoption by people who care more for themselves than any child is bad.

Corruption and buying babies is bad.
Uh... last time I checked there weren't too many adopted "children" hanging out around here...

But I can answer as an adopted ADULT, holy poopballs Batman they DO grow up.

I would prefer to not be anyone's taboo or their little secret. How would you like it if I turned the fact that you were born at night (day, whatever) into a huge family secret and taboo? My birth isn't something to hide, I am not something to hide and I think you should avoid adopting since you would be sure to be just as offensive to an adopted child as you are to me.

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