Help please regarding adopting niece?

My sister and her ex boyfriend had a baby girl. They want to adopt her away from where we live but my husband and I want to adopt her. We have my family's backing. If this were to go too court, would we have much chance of winning? Also what is the process/how long does it take? I am ringing the lawyers tomorrow for an appointment. Thanks

By all means, I think you should consult an attorney but before you do that, sit your sister and her boyfriend down. Depending on the state, he might have to formally relinquish his rights so you want him to be there if he does. Sit them down and tell them why you think raising your niece is the right thing to do. Tell her things such as the child will know her biological family, and that she, you sister, will be able to see her. And that the baby girl will know both of you as her mother.


However, if she wants to give this child to another family, as the aunt, you have very few rights. If you try to strong arm her legally, not only will you probably lose in court, you will probably lose her as a sister.

So, sit her down. Tell her everything that you and your husband can give her but do some in a way that does not make her feel like crap, and make sure you don't come off as greedy, and that you are trying to manipulate her.

If there is a part of her that wants to see her child grow up, she will respond to this suggestion.
If not, then she will reject it so don't put pressure on her.

Use a soft sale.

Dena

Some of this involves the state in which you live. Please consider how awkward it will be for this child growing up knowing his birth mother as a member of the family.
We have some friends whose daughter gave her child to her cousin to adopt. Six years later when we went to her wedding, her son was there. It was painful seeing her taking on her husband's son and having to call her own son "nephew", especially since he looks just like her. It brought tears to my eyes when she danced with him.

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Think long and hard before you take on this battle.

If your niece and her baby's father still have their rights, they have every right to say whether or not they would want you to adopt their baby. If the baby is in foster care then you can request to adopt her!

its up to the parents. They have the right to say who can or cannot adopt the child.