Found birth mothers information?

By using the information that I had about my birth mom and ended up finding what I believe to be her current address, phone number, etc. My birth mom and my adoptive mom used to write and talk on the phone and stuff. And my mom kept copies of all the letters and stuff like that.

My question is...now that I have all this information should I just let the sleeping dogs lie, and put it away somewhere or should I take this a step further?

I'm in my 20's so it's not like I'm a teenager. And contacting her isn't against the law and it's not like I would be doing anything wrong. So opinions?

Wow! How awesome that you have your first Mom's info. I would most definitely contact her! She is your first Mom...you have every right to know her. You may have siblings, too! I would call or send her an email if you have her email addy. Start off light, by saying you would like the opportunity to get to know her, etc. Good luck!!

being adopted and in reunion

Definitely contact her! :) If she used to be in communication with your adoptive mother, she probably thinks about you a lot. I wonder why they stopped corresponding? Careers_Employment pregnancy.yifei8.netParenting

In any event, call or write her, whichever one feels more comfortable for you. Personally, I prefer the phone for first contact. When I made my first contact with my mom I wrote a letter, and the waiting for a response was horrible. If I had to do it all over again, I would have called first.

There's a great forum for adoptees over at http://www.AdultAdoptees.org if you'd like some support as you start your reunion.

I think every mother deserves to know what became of the child she gave birth to. It also sounds like you'd like to get in touch, so go ahead and say 'hi'

You are an adult with the same freedom of association as any other citizen. People tend to forget that and treat adoptees as perpetual children (hence the numerous times we are asked 'ask your parents' or 'what do your parents think')

Best of luck. If you need any moral support or anything, just ask. When I called my Mom I had a few things written down so I could refer to that if I was rendered speechless at any point - it was really useful :)

I'm a birthmom and I would have been happy to hear from my birthdaughter, as it was it was me who searched and contacted her. We have been in reunion for 9 years. Reunions are fragile and it's best not to expect anything but hope for everything, if that is what you want. content from pregnancy question and answersRenting&RealEstate
You can be in charge, you don't have to have a face to face right off the bat, you can just email or phone and take things easy. There is an excellent chance that she would want some kind of contact.

If you want to contact her then I think it would be fine. She would probably enjoy hearing from you. However, this is about you and not her. You have to do what is best for you emotionally. If you aren't ready, or don't want contact, that's fine too. You have the information and can always contact when you feel ready, or not at all if that's what you decide. It sounds like you have a good relationship with your mom. Maybe you can talk with her about it, or another friend. Once you decide what you want to do then you have the information you need. Don't feel pressured, like you have to contact her. But if you do want to contact her then go ahead. Good luck, whatever you decide.

My guess is she was more than willing to keep in contact. So she's probably more than willing to hear from you now. Most of us are. pregnancy question and answersNewborn&Baby

My daughters one regret is that she started and stopped her search for me instead of keeping at it and it cost us ten years. Understandably so on the intermittent searching, it gets disheartening.

A question for you, are you good with finding that you were too late as a result of sitting on the information? Not trying to be mean, it happens.

That is tough I think about that every day. I am adopted too. The only reason I cant find my birth parents is because I was adopted from Korea. I think if you feel you are strong enough that you should. I would also talk to your adoptive mom and see what she thinks. If I could find my birth Parents I definitely would but it is all up to you. Good Luck!