Foster or adoptive parents, did you bring your children to t

Foster or adoptive parents, did you bring your children to the termination hearing?
Did you bring your biological children to the TPR (Termination of Parental Rights) Hearing?
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No, and I would have never thought about bringing my son to the day that a judge was going to tell his mother that she was unfit to parent a child.

Edit - no I didn't bring my own children to the hearing - we only brought our children to the adoption hearing - we didn't think it was appropriate and didn't want the children to see their new brother as any different than their new brother.
No, not sure why you would... My husband, now legal father of my two children (9 and 10) adopted them. Their father was never in their lives in any way. We terminted his rights, he didn't even show. The thought of having the kids there never entered my mind. I would not want them there, they don't fully understand and I would never want them to think they were unwanted. My main job is to protect them both mentally and physically.
My husband adopted my daughter when we married. We did not want to bring her to court but the courts and attorneys stated it was mandatory for her to be there. It may be different by the state or on a case by case basis. (We live in Texas.) We had our own attorney, our daughter had an ad-litum attorney appointed by the court, and sperm donor/birth father had an attorney. Of course, her father was never active in her life either and he did not show but sent in a form refusing to sign away his rights with his attorney which held no merit due to his past actions.

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The only questions the judge asked our daughter after being sworn in were: Are you doing this of your own free will? Tell me what it means for you to be adopted by your stepdad? What do you know about your birth father? -- Our daughter answered: Yes, I want this done because he is my dad not my stepdad. I love him and he is the only dad that I have ever known. He loves me, takes care of me, helps me with homework and I love my dad. As for the other guy all I remember was seeing him maybe one or two times. The first time he was arrested and my mom had to pick me up from a building and the other time he dropped me off at my aunts. I have a dad and he's right here your honor.

That was about it. The judge granted the adoption and was happy to see a well rounded individual that spoke clearly about what she wanted without anger but with maturity.

In the end, find out what your attorney and/or judge requires in the case. Each case is different, each judge has their own opinion and each state has different rules. Talk to your attorney i'm sure the person has handled enough cases to inform you what will be the best option. By the way...it was not detrimental to our daughter's well being; it actually gave her closure. Afterwards, we went on a weekend trip to the beach down in padre island.

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Absolutely not. They were both just toddlers, but I wouldn't do it anyway. I NEVER want my children to associate the word "abandoment" with their parents. I am sure they will someday, but I wouldn't subject them to anything that makes them feel like someone didn't care about them.
No, and neither did we attend the hearing. copyright pregnancy question and answers,Other-Business&Finance

We, and others involved with the case, were concerned that if we played any roll in the process to terminate the biological parents' rights, it might appear that we were trying to 'push' the decision to terminate so that we could adopt. E.g. steal the kids. While we made it clear we wanted to adopt and loved the boys, we did not apply any pressure for the termination and generally kept out of the process as much as possible. That included staying away from the court hearings.

We didn't go into court until the adoption was finalized. At that event, we not only took our biological daughter with us, but many other friends and family as well.
She was required, by law, to be there. "THEY" didn't appear.
When I adopted my step daughter, we brought all of the kids to court. My older kids knew what was going on and they wanted to be there. My daughter was only 20 months old and of course had no idea what was going on. Our lawyer said to bring her because the judge like to see the child being adopted with the parent adopting. (Also this same judge had been involved in issuing my husband custody after he first mom neglected her.) Oh and we brought our younger baby because he was 2 months old and needed to be nursed lol.

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